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Deep Breathing – tools to manage stressย 

Deep breathing is a fantastic way to help manage stress and anxiety.ย  It is impossible to be in a state of high emotion when breathing deeply.

Find out what causes you stress 

. Note possible triggers, and reduce the impact of these by changing your thoughts and behaviours.

. Adopt a healthy lifestyle 

. By eating a healthy diet, taking regular exercise, and getting regular rest, your body is better able to cope with stress when it occurs.

. Know your limitations and do not take on too much

. Stress can be caused by taking on too much, delegate and set boundaries to avoid over committing yourself.

. Manage your time effectively

. Prioritise your tasks, completing the most important jobs first.  Donโ€™t put off the unpleasant tasks, avoidance causes a great deal of stress.

. Avoid unnecessary conflict 

. Seek a win-win resolution to a dispute so both parties can achieve a positive outcome.

. Accept the things you cannot change

. Changing a difficult situation is not always possible. If this proves to be the case, recognise and accept things as they are and concentrate on all that you do have control over.

. Take time out to relax and recharge your batteries

. To perform effectively take short 10-15 minute breaks during the day to relax.  And donโ€™t forget to use your annual holiday allowance!

. Find time to meet friends

. Catching up with friends can help us to relax.  In turn, this boosts the immune system, which is depleted during times of stress.

. Try to see things differently, develop a positive thinking style

. If something is concerning you, talk to a friend, colleague or family member. They could help you to see things from a different perspective, reducing stress.

. Avoid alcohol, nicotine and caffeine as coping mechanisms. 

. Over time these coping mechanisms will just add to the problem.

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Congratulations to our featured coach – Nuala Groogan

” I first discovered Relax Kids when I applied to attend a one day course about supporting childrenโ€™s emotional wellbeing that our local Education Authority was facilitating in 2015. I was Principal of a small rural school on the outskirts of Omagh, in the North of Ireland at that time. A few weeks earlier we had been notified that our amazing little school would close! I was devastated. I dragged myself to the course one grey November morning and bounced out, knowing that something magical had happened that day. I knew that Relax Kids resonated with me. I felt it had my name written all over it. I went home that day and knew I had a โ€œnext stepโ€! Eventually, I booked the RK training in September 2016, began a small community class in October 2017, and my teeny side hustle has grown to become my main job. I followed up with Baby Mindful and Charge Up Training in 2020.

I now work three days in schools, playgroups and nurseries offering sessions to whole classes, nurture groups, one-to-one sessions and offer teacher and parent workshops too.

As an educator, and a literacy specialist teacher, I see the holistic benefits of Relax Kids:

๐Ÿ’œLanguage & Literacy development

๐Ÿ’œ Physical skills development

๐Ÿ’œ Turn taking

๐Ÿ’œ Working together

๐Ÿ’œBuilding empathy

๐Ÿ’œ Problem-Solving

๐Ÿ’œ Supporting Personal Development and so much moreโ€ฆ..

I am living my best life, following these magical 7 steps, and most importantly helping to support children develop strong hearts & calm minds. I also offer Parent Consultations, Family Sessions & 1-2-1 support. My greatest joy is hearing from the children & parents how these simple but powerful strategies have helped.”

– Nuala Groogan

www.facebook.com/nualasrelaxkidsomagh

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Help children reduce stress with labyrinths

Labyrinths have been used in history for meditation!

Relaxation can be defined as a feeling of being calm, an act of relaxing the body and mind โ€š the state of simply being relaxed. It is not a new invention, however, it is a state that many of us have forgotten how to be. Generally, we seem to be more consumed with a fast paced lifestyle filled with technology. This includes children, who, these days, have access to the same kinds of technologies that adults do. This poses the question, are children growing up too quickly and taking on too much pressure at too young an age?

Those children who spend considerably more time involved taking part in other activities where they are allowed to feel their body relax are found to be less stressed, (BBC 2006). Relaxation is a way of offering children an outer school activity and it consists of high and low energy states to let the body fully relax. Many people may wonder what children have to worry about but with 1 in 5 children now diagnosed with mental health problems, the numbers speak for themselves (British Medical Association 2006, Office of National Statistics 2004, The Telegraph 2009, TimesOnline 2010). 

By looking at numerous pieces of research it can be said that the biggest worries that children have are: exams, friendships, homework, health, the future, (Ofsted TellUs Survey, anon). In fact, the BBC (2008) take this even further by suggesting that holidays are stressful to children tooโ€š they lose their sense of belonging when away from school and their confidence levels drop.

Start them young

Forman and Oโ€šร„รดMalley (1985) explain that attitudes that we take on to later life are formed in our youth. It is these attitudes that influence our future adult behaviour. If we can try and help children through stress at a young age, then they have stress management techniques for life.

There has been much research to explain the benefits of relaxation procedures on children, both those who are anxious and those who are said to be generally healthy confident, (Barrett and Turner 2001, Allen and Klien 1996, Speidel and Troy 1985). 

A stressed child may have many symptoms that are visible on their physical and mental health. This shall be explored further later. A generally healthy and confident child may not have particular symptoms that cause them dilemma, however, regular relaxation can allow them to maintain their healthy mental and physical outlook and inspire peers to do the same.

Schools and Relaxation

Goleman, (1995) recognises that when children compare themselves with peers and a competitive air is apparent, for example through competitive sports or academic tests,  enzymes in the brain are produced that can interfere with concentration and classroom behaviour. In a classroom of children with different abilities, relaxation can be a way of creating a more cohesive, team atmosphere. 

There is no competitive air as relaxation activities allow children to recognise their personal breathing patterns, understand what their body needs at that time and play and interact with one another, so that they can build on their peer relationships. Children can receive positive feedback for listening to themselves. Positive feedback allows children to have a more positive approach to their own ability.

The government has realised the importance of considering the emotional aspects of childrenโ€™s  learning. The approach (SEAL) includes discreet lessons in life and learning opportunities that tie into the curriculum. This is a way that all children can be assisted, no matter what their personal circumstances may be. A few years ago these concepts may have been rather alien as many adults questioned how such activities can be beneficial for a child for example, visualisation (which sparks their imagination), affirmation (positive statements) and breathing exercises (that helps keep them calm and focussed). 

Children are much more susceptible to working around strangers/teachers than adults so they are more willing to take part in these activities.

Try our Focus Me album to help with wondering thoughts and concentration struggles – https://relaxkids.com/product/focus-me-mp3/

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Calm Picture

A great exercise you can do at home or in school

Here is a great exercise you can do at home or in school to encourage children to feel calm and peaceful.

Write the word CALM as large as possible and let your child colour in the word. They can add pictures of things that help them feel calm. Let them use calming colours – anything to create an image of calm. Tell children to stare at the picture and see how calm they can feel. Then ask them to close their eyes and make the picture very small – like a postage stamp. Tell children they can keep this little picture anywhere they like in their body – heart, head, and finger. Whenever they are feeling stressed and anxious, they can look at their calm picture and feel calm.

You might like to play to a Relax Kids while the children are colouring their Calm picture. Check out the calm MP3 album – https://relaxkids.com/product/calm-me-mp3/

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How can I relieve my stress?

20 ways to help you cope with your stress.

Here are 20 ways to help you cope with your stress.

1. Clutter clear – when your house is tidy and you know where everything is, you feel freer and more together.

2. Try and get up 15 mins early and take a few breaths while you prepare yourself for the day.

3. Spend some time each day doing absolutely nothing. Just relax and BE. 

4. Make a list of what you want to do each day and enjoy crossing them off.

5. Say thank you for everything that happens – good and bad.

6. If you have to wait in a queue, have something to do or use it as your day dreaming time.

7. Manage your time so you arrive early and give yourself time to breathe.

8. After a long day, have a warm soak and enjoy some quiet time.

9. Laugh, Cuddle and Smile – lots! Stop what you are doing and just dance!

10. Make sure you get enough sleep even if it means you miss out on a night out.

11. Do something lovely for someone else – do something that makes you feel valued.

12. Do something that makes you feel alive.

13. Take a walk if it all gets too much.

14. Keep a diary and write down all your thoughts and feelings.

15. If you are sitting for long periods, make sure you get up and stretch.

16. Take up a yoga, meditation or dance class.

17. Spend time with positive and loving friends and family.

18. Give and receive a relaxing massage.

19. Doodle, day dream, pray, or meditate

20. Make every moment special and appreciate the little things in life

Try our Motivate me album – https://relaxkids.com/product/motivate-me-mp3/ It helps manage low moods, increase endorphins and boost mental and physical states.

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Positive and Negative Emotions

The way we feel is the way we feel!

The emotions that we have can generally be categorised as either being positive or negative. However, this may then encourage us to judge our feelings as either good or bed, which is not particularly encouraging or helpful for anyone involved.

The way we feel is the way we feel โ€š whether it be an emotion that makes us feel happy, sad or anything else does not matter. They are all valid and we need to listen to our emotions with equal importance. Only then by doing that will we see our negative emotions transform into positive ones.

Ask yourself, how do I feel today? and then label it with a statement. This can be, I feel greatโ€š I feel angryโ€š or I feel frustrated… whatever the case may be.

Simply by acknowledging the way you feel you may automatically feel a lift, whether that be that you go from happy to happier or that you go from feeling rather frustrated to a little less frustrated.

Next, take a moment to centre yourself and take in everything that surrounds you. Empty your mind and observe everything that is there. What textures can you feel? What colours can you see? What shapes are in the room? This activity will allow you to notice whatever you see in that specific moment.

Then take a moment, to take a deep breath in and breathe out focussing on an object in the room. Then move to another object and repeat. Do this 5 times.

Smile. This may feel unnatural but it is hard to think of something negative when you have a smile on your face.

Check out our Boost Me album from our ME range. They are mediations for self esteem and confidence. https://relaxkids.com/product/boost-me-mp3/

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Bullying and Anger Management

Both bullies and their victims can often benefit from some anger management techniques.

Relax Kids have recently released a Cool me album. This album has meditations for anger and emotional regulation. https://relaxkids.com/product/cool-me-mp3/

Relaxation strategies such as progressive muscle relaxation, breathing exercises, positive self talk and visualisations have been shown to be extremely effective treatment components for reducing stress and tension in children and young people.

These tracks can been used to help bring peace and calm to children as well as provide anger management tools for future outbreaks. This can also help promote empathetic skills and a positive expression of feelings. It helps children feel their own power and helps give them the power to improve their behaviour. Examples include: stepping into a cooling pool, floating like a feather, melting and sitting in a peaceful cave. These relaxations aim to develop peace and calm as children are introduced to relaxation exercises.

Helping a child who continues to bully, deal with their emotions, anger and aggression is vital. Encouraging children to develop empathy skills is also important as is helping a child recognise that they are a good person, deep down inside.

Relaxation can play an important part in this process as children spend time thinking about their behaviour and connecting with their goodness and strengths.

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Are children getting more angry?

Relax Kids does work!

According to a recent article in the ‘https://www.telegraph.co.uk/education/primaryeducation/6255646/Not-wanted-in-class-the-growing-exclusions-from-primary-school.html ‘more than 40,000 children aged between 4 and 7 were excluded from their primary schools – and not all of them from deprived backgrounds.

Recent research by Ofsted, the education standards watchdog, highlighted the extent to which very young children are being excluded from primary schools for everything from physically attacking pupils and teachers to inappropriate sexual behaviour.

The report was based on visits to 69 primary schools, half of which had above-average exclusion rates for four-to-seven-year-olds. The survey echoes recent national figures showing that in 2007/8 43,290 children were excluded temporarily from primary schools, a rise of about 10 per cent since 2004

Relax Kids does work!

In 2006 Sylvester Primary School in Merseyside had 19 exclusions . After using SEAL and Relax Kids daily, they brought this down to zero in 2009 and 2010! This may well show the powerful effect that relaxation can have on a whole school

Here are some Chill Skills for children

1 Repeat to yourself ‘I am cool, I am cool’

2 Breathe in deeply for a count of 4, hold for 4 and out for 8

3 Imagine you are in a calm and tranquil place such as the top of a mountain or lying on a beach for at least 1 minute

4 Count backwards from 20-1

5 Go for a walk or run up and down the stairs two or three times

6 Listen or dance to your favourite music

7 Stretch your whole body as much as you can

8 Imagine there is an ice cube melting on your head

Please try our new Cool Me album to help with hot headed and tense moments – https://relaxkids.com/product/cool-me-mp3/

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Managing Emotions

How mindfulness affects the brain 

Mindfulness techniques are used by experts all over the world to help teach people to manage their emotions in a positive way including psychologists and medical researchers. The University of Oxford even has its own dedicated Mindfulness Centre, which continues to research the effects and development of mindfulness techniques.

Teaching mindfulness techniques to children can help them become more aware of their feelings and emotions, and teaches them positive ways of addressing and responding to those emotions.

These techniques can include breathing exercises, muscle relaxations, affirmations, positive affirmations, and meditation or visualisation. Relax Kids uses all of these techniques throughout the entire product range and in Relax Kids Classes to help children learn how to deal positively with emotions like anger, worry, stress and low self-esteem.

There have been studies to record whether mindfulness techniques can actually affect the way we experience emotions, rather than just improving the way we respond to them.

Dr Zindel Segal from the University of Toronto conducted a study that showed that mindfulness can affect the way we experience sadness. In his study, he taught half his group of volunteers mindfulness techniques, whereas the other half of the group received no mindfulness training. He then showed both groups the same set of video clips that were designed to invoke sadness, while scanning their brains to see which areas of the left and right side were activated.

The group that had received mindfulness training had more balanced activations in both the left and right sides of the brain than those who had no mindfulness training, and importantly, they showed less self-referencing (fear, guilt, shame, etc.) while experiencing emotion.

By reducing the activation of the region associated with the self, mindfulness can help children view their emotions from a more detached point of view, and therefore deal with these emotions more effectively.

If you would like your children to learn mindfulness techniques, but donโ€™t know where to start, the Relax Kids ME range introduces children to mindfulness in a fun, simple and way through audio visualisation. Check out our online shop to learn more about our ME range – https://relaxkids.com/store/product-category/mp3s/